Being Strong... Exhausting

Being strong is ExHaUsTinG we all have eardrum phrases such as "big girls don't cry" and "men cry in the dark" but the truth is being strong is ExHaUsTiNg!

At some point we have to be the vulnerable ones! It is more healthy to expose your vulnerable side slowly but surely than withhold it for a Lon period of time. If you wait too long there will be an inappropriate time and u may have to live with the regret of embarrassing yourself or hurting the feelings of a loved one!

We have to be realistic that everything is NOT perfect all the time but we are WILLING to work through EVERY situation presented to become better people!!

No I am not saying everytime you eel sad,hurt, or betrayed to expose yourself but select a positive outlet where your experiences are lessons and you have a trustworthy alliance to support u through times of distress!

Do NOT take the world in your hands, release uncertainties to God and allow Him to get you through! After all you have made it this far for a reason so do NOT doubt Him or become distracted ! Have a wonderful night and remember this is just a thought! :)


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The Decision 2 Say Goodbye

When you make a decision that you are done, most times you decide you are going to quit COLD TURkEY but after your "breaking point" usually after an hour or so you decide maybe you should ween yourself away from what you want to rid from your life.

I believe the decision too ween is better, you are setting your own realistic expectations (afterall you didn't get into the situation over night)

If you are in a relationship of any kind friendship,parental, professional, dating,married,etc please respect all parties involved ...don't burn bridges equip the one you are leaving to be better after you don't leave them in the dark. We all appreciate personal growth but not at the expense of the one you once loved emotions. You abandoning them may be the onset of future relational problems.

No you are not obligated to leave with an explanation. No this does not apply to all situations; but you should use discretion and operate thinking :

" i want to show everyone the love they DESERVE to have in life and that there are some genuine folks in the world"

Sure we all have had relationships end abruptly but for future reference if at all possible don't leave your friends, family, children, & others in the dark!

Xoxo
Ashes


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Nails Nails Nails

Many of y'all know I use
to go to the nail salon several times a month to maintain acrylic nails. Well one day I decided I wanted another more natural alternative! I fell n love with the Axxium nail process from OPI, but finding a tech that was convenient for me was not possible. I then made the goal I wanted to polish my own nails... Long story short I began my OPI journey! I love the quality of the product as well as the colors it provides!! Recently I have received a lot of attention ... This is a direct result or me using the OPI Shatter product!


Katy Perry is the spokesperson, it gives great appeal to ur nails & ez to apply! Apply a solid color of ur choice allow it to completely dry then apply the shatter. As the Shatter dries u will see the base color you applied come through! ( my only tip is to go slow and level ur hand on a table)Effortless abstract art on each finger! Enjoy ur personal OPI journey and explore different colors! I also use OPI's fast dry spray. Don't b shy... Stay fly as u are and try different things!

2 Windy if u wearin a wig!!

Well all and all today has been a great Saturday!!! I have been focusing on what I DO want to happen versus what I want to avoid! It's on the line of positive thinking but more so positive ACTION! The wind is NO joke today yet I managed to hit up the library





I then had an impromptu meet up with Riiiiiiick at Busboy &Poets it was yummery!





My shoppin experience was made all better when I saw Teavana





at Pentagon yAAAY so I definitely bought 40 bucks n tea! Geesh it's not even 3 and I feel like so much got done! Oh & if yall wanna be on Top Model and get n line





Hope ur Saturday turns out as awesome as u! Today ain't a day to wear a wig tho Hahahahahahahaha xoxo thanks for readin my thoughts!
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Overstuffed weekends!

Well last week was an adventure within itself! I had a class which was Mon- Friday from 5-10pm & Saturday from 9-5! This was in addition to working my regular work hours! Although the week was jammed packed I managed to step out during the weekend & survive! Friday night after leaving work and class, I was able to celebrate Ms. Erika's bday at Lucky Strike,


downtown DC. Althought there is always a lovely crowd there, I feel like Lucky Strike is not in the customer service business, our waitress this time was very nice & the company of Raquel & Myia Made it a little more lovely!


After leaving Lucky Strike I went in the house and changed up my clothing to meet up with Ms. Amber... at K St Lounge. I have not been there in FOREVER but the short time we spent there was actually enjoyable I lucked up on parking only to come out and see EVERY car parked in the front had a ticket! Well every car BUT mine THANKFULLY! We left here and headed to Lux Lounge, another place that I havent been since my bday LAST YEAR! The crowd was LIVE did not disappoint the music was good, I have had consecutively good times at LUX... having Amber's hook up was icing on the cake since we did not have to wait in line or purchase drinks. Class the next day was cool and I got to be with my girls Joy, Robyn, & Daryl. I did go home for a 2 hour nap b ut then woke up and headed to Aleros on U st. Aleros can never disappoint with a lovely atmosphere & Resonable prices.... Sunday was AMAZING.... it included a surprise visit from my ladies to MY CHURCH... & then...... well I will need a new post to cover the events of Sunday :)

Rubber Duckie

Allow me to introduce JC my rubber Duckie ! I use him just about everyday. Can u guess the purpose of JC? Well if u guessed a simple toy, u are wrong. JC is a tea infuser so I can enjoy my loose leaf tea n small quantities on a daily basis!! If u want your personal JC visit bloomingdales.com and enter According2Ashes and receive 20% off! Ok the discount is not true but it's definitely affordable so enjoy, I recommend u shop at Teavana! Enjoy!

According2Ashes....

Well this blog definately doesnt have a professional editor, but it does have a professional 'enjoyer' of life :). I hope to share a few experiences and put y'all on to some of my enjoyable experiences with my fRaMiLy! For those who are not familiar with me there are a few key points I must make. fRaMiLy is a term I coined for friends & family combination, in some cases we may not be blood but there is ALL LOVE! You will see more than your share of "WhoopWhoop's", that's just my sounds of excitement! Now dont judge me but feel free to challenge me on ANYTHING you see here, but remember Im living MY LIFE MY WAY.... dont take it personal or you are missing the point... this is my blank tablet... feel free to create your own. From time to time I may promote someone, place, or thing that I love. If you ever check out a suggestion please let me know. Have a lovely day as we start off 2011 let me know of anything you think I should be checking out!